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Travis Finseth’s New Job January 27, 2005

Filed under: Family News — Jaime @ 10:57 pm

Travis Finseth has accepted a new position at USLegalForms.com.

He will be starting work on Feb 2 2004. The position entails graphic design, web development and programming for a new department. One of the first websites he will be re-building is Divorce.com .

UsLegalForms.com is privately held and is located in Flowood, Mississippi. The office is only ten minutes from the house!

Travis’ company - Nuzu Net Media will merge with UsLegalForms.com. The company will be offering services like - website development, hosting, web application development, Logo and graphic design and search engine optimization.

 
 

Christmas 2004 December 23, 2004

Filed under: Family News — Jaime @ 10:14 pm

To all of our family and friends

“Happy Holidays”!

We have had a great year filled with lots of travel and fun watching our little Reed grow up so fast!

We celebrated Reed’s first birthday in April with a luau! Tutu and Auntie Deb were able to fly out for the celebration and spend time with us for a few days. And earlier in the year Grandma Betty came to visit us and we showed her around the South a little bit. The highlight in our memories was going o­n a carriage ride in the French Quarter and having beignets and coffee at Café Du Monde in New Orleans before her departure back home! It was such a treat to have family come and visit us!

Reed is really becoming our little boy now. He is 19 months and talking up a storm. He started day care in September and took some time adjusting to being away from “momma”, but now he loves “school”. I went back to work in September with the Office of the State Auditor as a Performance Auditor and am enjoying it so far. Although I miss being at home with Reed! I think it has taken me longer to adjust to our being separated than it has Reed.

Travis is still with MCI as unbelievable as that may be. He is also running his web development business “Nuzu Net Media” on the side and business has been good for him this year. He is also still in school working to obtain his Masters in Business Management, he should graduate in May of this coming year. We are all looking forward to that! He is ready to take a much needed break from all of his commitments!

We were able to travel a good bit this year. In May Mom and Mike took all of the kids and grandkids to Walt Disney World in Florida. We had a great time, and Reed loved seeing his “Pappy”, Grandma, auntie, and cousins! He also LOVED Pluto! Amazingly he really had no fear of the characters, although his cousin Kylee felt the opposite and would cling to the closest family member if one came near! It was also special to celebrate Anthony’s 7th birthday there as well – we had dinner with Mickey Mouse and gang! It was a great time had by us all!

In August we met Travis’ parents, Terry and Michele, in Istanbul Turkey. We spent a few days in Istanbul then traveled by car to Troy, Canakkale, Ephesus, Bergama, Izmir, Pammukkale, and Antalya. It was so neat to see a few of the seven churches of Revelation and to be able to visualize places where Jesus and others like Paul traveled. Ephesus is truly amazing, at 5,000 years old it is still in very good condition – there are still mosaic tile floors throughout the city! Turkey was a great experience for us, and the Turkish people are really very nice and LOVE children! Reed was kissed, held, hugged, and had his cheeks pinched more times than we could count! Our time in Turkey was wonderful and I know Reed enjoyed being with his Nonno and Nonna during that time!

From Antalya we left Terry and Michele and headed by ferry to Greece. We spent a few days on the island of Rhodes where we spent most of our time taking in the ancient ruins and the fully intact medieval city. From there we traveled to Athens and watched the opening ceremonies for the Paralympics, and toured the Parthenon, the Temple of Zeus, and more ancient ruins (we have seen enough ruins to last us a few decades). It was a once in a lifetime trip and we loved every minute of it!

In October, just on the heels of Hurricane Ivan, we met Mom and Mike in Pensacola, FL where we traveled to Destin for some fun in the sun! We stayed in a beautiful condo close to the beach, and enjoyed great food! We began to worry about the damage to Destin as we drove through Mobile, AL and into Pensacola, FL! The damage was terrifying! It affirmed God’s words of “the foolish man builds his house upon the sand”! But when we arrived in Destin it was as beautiful as always and the water was even as clear and calm as I’ve ever seen it! We had a wonderful time relaxing and spending time with family!

This Christmas we will be here in Mississippi and Terry, Michele, Will, and Malia will be joining us! We are so excited to spend time together for the holidays! To all of our family and friends we will miss this year we love you and wish you all a very Merry CHRISTmas and a Happy New Year!

God’s Love and Peace to you! Travis, Jaime & Reed

 
 

Beius, Romania. Covering the months of March, April, and May May 23, 2004

Filed under: Family News — Jaime @ 10:03 pm

23 May 2004 -
Howdy friends!

Spring in Beius brought vacations, volunteer teams from Habitat for Humanity, visits from friends, and views of Romanian tradition, along with the customary rain, shine, flowers, and green. Yet despite new growth all around us, our numbers have been pruned down. Jana and Jeff departed as forward scouts of the homeward trail on May 10th. They will begin work in Boise this next week, after a few days of adjustment and family time.

Before Jeff and Jana left to join American efficiency, they enrolled with Mom
and I on a quest to add a few more stamps to our passports. Our circular route
through Eastern Europe hit Budapest (Hungary), Krakow (Poland), Prague (Czech
Republic), and Vienna (Austria), before returning home by way of Budapest.
Despite rain or snow 9 of 10 days, we had a wonderful time sight-seeing and
calculating the local currencies. Sue Phillips joined us for the Prague
through Budapest portion of the trip, spreading love from home. While many of
the countries in that region joined the European Union this month, differences
such as the devout Catholicism of Krakow or the business-like manner of Vienna
still are evident. Strangely, the atmosphere of Prague’s wonderfully blackened
Gothic architecture was almost swamped by the flood of Italian high-school
students present.

Also in March, the first Habitat for Humanity teams rolled into Beius to
construct houses. Good Samaritan (GS) is contracted to provide breakfast and
lunch for these groups. This job and its training possibilities for the GS
orphans prompted Jana and Sheila to return to the restaurant scene, assisted by
Jeff as well. For three weeks they coordinated and cooked, planned and
purchased. The Habitat teams were pleased, the orphans learned some new
skills, and we all got to converse to new people in English.

Noah’s Ark, the small farm and group home for developmentally-disabled young
women, in the village of Finis has been the site of much of our energy this
spring. In our first months here, we noticed that the girls at Noah’s Ark
badly needed a supervisor who would provide love, discipline, and instruction.
In March, a “mama” for Noah’s Ark was finally located and hired! After three
months of having a mother, the positive effects are evident in the girls’
behaviors.

Noah’s Ark is a partnership between Good Samaritan and the Minimum Sisters.
These Italian nuns and their Romanian staff are filling a key role in Beius and
the surrounding villages, daily providing after-school programs for the many
children that are neglected by their families. The children receive assistance
on their homework, get instruction on personal hygiene, sing and pray, and
receive much-needed attention and love. We have spent many days in the last
few months doing landscape, construction, and maintenance work at the Sisters’
centers. Of course, working for Italians, we are fed very well — no small
perk. Pasta cooked perfectly, homemade sauces, imported products from Italy,
coffee and cookies, yum yum!

Eating at the Sisters’ fed our desire to travel to Italy, so in late April, Mom,
Dad, and I took a two week vacation to visit friends and family in Italy, as
well as to indulge in the Italian culinary efforts. Sue Phillips also joined
us for the first leg of this trip, after her and Karl celebrated Easter with
our family in Beius. Across the country, the flowers were in full bloom,
making every walk a field trip in fragrances. Coincidental experiences, such
as stumbling into the middle of the Florence marathon, filled this wonderful
trip. Strangely, as I traveled about, I found that I could understand Italian
better than I could Romanian, perhaps an indication of my poor Romanian
language skills or the quality of the one Italian class I’ve taken.

Clark, however, continues to amaze me with his handle on the Romanian language.
Often, a member of the family we live with will speak to Clark. He will reply
to the question or run off and do some chore, as I sit trying to fill in the
gaps between the few words I recognized. Furthermore, Clark now sometimes
serves as our translator when people come to visit; perhaps we all should have
enrolled in the first grade here. Clark has a 10 year old neighbor friend who
speaks some English. Watching them play, I’ve noticed that they speak to each
other in the other’s native language. I suppose this keeps the conversation on
a level they both can understand.

Our ignorance of Romanian tradition is perhaps greater than our language
deficiency. One startling example comes to mind. Jana was walking Clark home
from school one afternoon. As they were strolling along on the sidewalk by a
large apartment building, a large quantity of water splashed the concrete a
step in front of them. Quickly looking up, Jana glimpsed a bucket retreating
through a fifth-floor window. For a week, this incident remained a mystery.
Then while talking with Adi, the 18 year old son of our host family, we brought
up this near drenching. Laughing, he explained that the day must have been the
feast of Saint George. Tradition on this day, at least for young chaps, is to
throw water on cute girls. Adi, of course, has matured beyond this juvenile
practice, he assured us. However, he was unable to explain the origin of this
tradition, so if any of you knowledgeable (or creative) readers can explain (or
hypothesize) the connection between falling buckets of water and St. George, I
would like to know.

Throughout our stay in Romania, we have been alerted to many weddings that were
occurring in Beius as lines of decorated cars, horns blaring, parade down the
street. Last weekend, we finally got the insider’s look at the Romanian
wedding traditions. Nini, the older son of our host family, and the lovely
Rebeca, were married in the city of Cluj. As close friends, our family got to
tag along through all the day’s events. Meeting up with the groom and his
family at 10:00 at Nini’s apartment, we decorated the cars with ribbons and
flowers before heading in convoy to pick up Rebeca at her home. Nini greeted
Rebeca with her flower bouquet, before they loaded into a borrowed Audi A4
convertible for the ride to the courthouse. After the legal marriage, the
singing of “La Multi Ani” (the Romanian greeting and song used for birthdays,
name days, weddings, and many holidays), and a brief reception, we went to the
largest botanical garden in Romania to take pictures. Following pictures was
the two-and-a-half hour wedding ceremony at a Lord’s Army Romanian Orthodox
Church. (The Lord’s Army, started in the 1920’s, is a revival movement among
the Orthodox that has a predominantly evangelical feel.) Beautiful singing by
a enthusiastic choir preceded the entrance of the bride and groom and their
godparents. (Godparents are a married couple chosen by the couple to be
mentors.) Unlike the typical American wedding, this entrance wasn’t a dramatic
event. Sermons and prayers by lay preachers and more singing led into the
marriage ceremony, which was performed by an Orthodox priest. This involved
the couple getting crowned with wreaths of flowers, circling the altar three
times while joined by a ribbon to their godparents, and having the godparents
place the rings on the couple’s fingers. The whole ceremony seemed very
faith-filled and alive, even though I understood little. The following
reception was held at an American restaurant, lasting from 15:00 to 22:00. In
the first six hours, the equivalent of three full meals were served, disguised
as both warm and cold appetizers, a main course, and the cake dessert. The
bride and groom getting cake smashed up their noses is a Romanian custom as
well, although with the difference of close friends being the perpetrators as
the couple attempts to eat from the same slice of cake. At night’s end, I
could safely say I had never eaten so much in my life. Socializing was the
only activity in between courses, so I wasn’t even able to dance and digest.
Almost forgot the kidnapping of the bride, with the ransom paid by the
godfather, as part of the traditional reception.

Now, only 6 weeks remain before the jet plane takes us westward. Today we
compiled a to-do list for the remaining time; we have no lack of projects, it
appears. I apologize for the long span between updates. Translating Good
Samaritan donor relations documents from Romanian-English to American-English
has taken the edge off my writing urge.

Although we hope to see many of you shortly, we still enjoy all contact and
correspondence we receive. I doubt any more general updates (bearing my name
at least) will be sent your direction from Transylvania, yet I plan to write a
final chapter to be sent out before the summer ends. For the epilogue on my
Romanian experience, I guess my life will display more than a few words could
hope to.

Peace and Joy,

dominic

P.S. Remember the website:
http://barney.gonzaga.edu/~dbruno
There you can currently view pictures from March, including an amazing display
of pollution and some fun dentist pictures. I’ve selected the Eastern Europe
and April Pictures, but have yet to post them (scheduled for late this week).

Note: Frank, Sheila, Jana, Jeff, Dominic, Clark and Aurelia are on a one year mission to Romania.
They need our prayers and support. Links to Dominics website:

 
 

Looking for a Fight - by Michele Finseth April 20, 2004

Filed under: Articles — Jaime @ 9:46 pm

     A German couple stands at the crosswalk of one of Rome’s busiest thoroughfares, trying to gather the courage to step out.  Suddenly an Italian joins them and urges them off the curb saying, “Non si preoccupi” (don’t worry), to the man, “Andiamo insieme.” (we’ll go together).  Midway across, a car enters the crosswalk, looking as though it will continue on through, without regard for the pedestrians.  Stopping mid-stride the Italian on foot begins shouting (in Roman dialect) then bangs on the hood of the car to make his point.  “Che sta di?” (what gives). “Ao’?” (what, are you crazy). The driver gets out of the car and begins gesturing, shouting back nose-to-nose, and arguing, “Ma di che?” (but what).  “Ma che sta di?” (what are you saying - it’s not true).  Meanwhile, the German couple watches mesmerized for a moment, then realizes they are now at a standstill in a busy intersection and they begin to move away in obvious fear of the escalating confrontation.  Reaching the curb they stand for a moment, not sure what to make of the altercation that is now backing traffic up, car horns blaring.  With a final wave of annoyance laced with expletives, the driver jumps back into his car, the pedestrian finishes crossing the street, and with a broad smile says to the Germans, “Gli Italiani!” (these Italians)…

Italians accept confrontation in a busy city as a daily occurrence to be witnessed in every sector of life.  Yet their cultural method of dealing with it continues to be an enigma to many an observer, even those with a command of the language.  The vitality with which people argue (as well as the language used), is often a precursor to physical combat in other cultures, and the gesticulations, swearing and insults hurled about in Italian confrontations would leave witnesses to think the same was about to occur.  Seen through the lenses of other cultures, this brand of aggressive interaction is an invitation to do more than talk, yet resulting brawls rarely occur in Italian culture.  Why?<br><br>
     This paper seeks to look at confrontation through the eyes of Italian culture in a variety of arenas, and to discuss how language and behavior are interpreted between participants, then to draw conclusions as to why these confrontations seldom escalate beyond a shouting match.  Finally also, included will be a brief observation of those rare times when violence does erupt.<br><br>
     Despite the numerous dialects that continue to prevail since Italy’s unification in 1870, certain continuity can be observed in the social norms responsible for its methods of communication in confrontational circumstances.  Therefore, while choosing from a repertoire of codees, channels and expressions that shape the form of the message (relative to the speech event), their function is the same. <br><br>
     Regardless of the context of interaction, Italians are known the world-over for their gregarious and animated self-expression.  As a language of exaggerated gestures, Italian flourishes in cultural antiquity that is said to have originated in the arts.  Life is a stage to Italians, born into a culture saturated with performing.  Their opera is evidence, as it proceeds from the ancient religious chanting of monks that carried the melodious language.  The powers of self-expression, stage presence, and ability to debate are highly valued by parents in the enterprise of rearing children.  At the heart of these social behaviors lies the maintenance of a “bella figura”.  Originally used to describe Italians’ slavery to fashion, “bella figura” today refers to the importance of making a good impression—above all else!  <br><br>
     In the endeavor of  “looking for a fight”, I examined confrontation between children-children, parents-children, strangers, intimates, those of the academic sector (as panelists on a television discussion), and finally young adults. <br><br>
1. Confrontation between small children can give insight into what they are being taught.  On the playground I observed mothers on a bench talking and their children (about 4-5 year olds) playing in the sand, on swings, climbing equipment, and slides.  A disagreement erupted between two little girls over the issue of taking turns.  One in particular dominated in whatever area she played, and a second child allowed herself to be pushed out of the way at first, but eventually reasoned out loud, “You had your ‘first’ turn last time!”  While this continued in all the different parts of the play area, there wasn’t any hitting, and the mothers allowed the disagreement to continue, except in one instance when, the mother of the more aggressive girl held back the second girl (allowing her daughter to go first) stating, “Wait, your turn is next.”
This acceptance (by both sides) of aggressive behavior is said to build stronger character in children.  Apologies or admittance of wrongdoing shows weakness, but yet is not seen as a vehicle for producing bullies. <br><br>
2.  Reproach is not saved to be applied in private between parent and child, as I discovered when I walked into our neighborhood grocery to hear the mother giving her son (who had been stocking the shelves) a tongue-lashing.  She spared no words in telling him how stupid, careless and lazy she thought he was.  “You (swear word) idiot,” she bellowed, “where did you get your education?”  Waving her finger in his face she said, “Take every one of these labels off!” (apparently he’d mismarked merchandise).  “You’re so (more swearing) lazy…you can find your pasta somewhere else tonight!”
Her tirade continued through checking out customers, and he never responded, though she continued to berate him, saying “You’ll never be able to take over this business—you can’t even mark the goods correctly!”
The anomalous relationship between the mothers and sons of Italy is notorious and subject enough for another research project, but may it suffice to illustrate it with Italy’s favorite joke that Jesus surely must have been Italian, because he lived at home until his 30’s, thought his mother was a virgin, and she thought he was the Christ—all three are apt characterizations of a deeply abiding relationship suspended in emotional love-hate strife.<br><br>
3.   Italians’ erratic approach to driving often provides some very entertaining insights into their paradigm of life.  Even they admit that the frantic nature of their overcrowded streets still resembles a chariot race.  Since fender-benders are not uncommon, I have compared two incidents: one in which the participants were younger and spoke Roman dialect, and the second involved a businessman (speaking standard Italian), and by appearances, a motorist from a lower class.
In the first incident the female driving a scooter was knocked to the ground and lying under the scooter, and the other motorist (immediately out of his car) was arguing while standing over her.  For several moments she made no attempt to get out from beneath the bike, but carried on a shouting match simultaneously with the other driver.  She maintained he had cut her off, saying, “I had the right of way and you cut in front of me!”  He, in the meantime, argued that she ran into him.  Both spoke in the familiar (you) rather than formal (lei).  He shot back at her, “Why didn’t you watch where you were going?”
Language use in the second accident was more formal (lei) even though the businessman was livid about the damage to his car, gestured often and used swear words.  At the same time, his comments were more aimed at discrediting the other driver in general, rather than discussing the accident. “Do you ALWAYS drive like this?” he asked.  “Just what are you going to do about this (swear words) damage?”  Defensively, the other driver claimed that the first driver should have let him into the lane, asking, “Have you even heard of (using a hand signal that in Italian means ‘have some patience’)?”  In spite of insurance laws that place every driver in an accident at fault, it is highly unusual to see any motorist do less than argue vigorously that it’s the other driver’s fault.<br><br>
4.  Confrontation between intimates is not so much seen as heard in our building and neighbors consequently are captive to an argument.  Such was the case as I waited for the elevator, and a neighbor (voice elevated) accused her husband of preferring to spend time with his mother instead of her.  “If you don’t want to come, then don’t!  Go see your (swear word) mother!”  In a low and controlled, yet tense voice he responded, “Leave my (same word) mother out of this.  Haven’t I done what you wanted?  You have everything you need.  What do you want?”  Her reply was, “Lasciami stare.” (leave me alone).
Arguments between Italian intimates are especially firey, yet relatively seldom result in abuse.  Foreigners married to Italians often express with dismay, the frightful things said in the heat of a quarrel that are immediately forgotten by their Italian mate, but leave a lasting impression on the receiver.  Also grounds for divorces between Italians and foreigners often cite the inability for foreign mates to live with all the shouting.<br><br>
5.  In order to witness confrontation on an academic level in Italy, one only needs to turn on the television.  I happened upon a talk show in which a panel was discussing immigration laws.  Two immigrant interviewees were giving testimony regarding problems they had encountered with the system:  one because he was rejected from military service (on the basis of immigrant status, even though legalized), and the other dealing with refusal of legal immigration for a marriage of convenience.  The panel disintegrated over whether Italy’s laws were justified and quickly mayhem broke out.  Even though using formal Italian, one of the participants inserted dialectical words to make his point, “I disagree—what you’re saying is idiotic.” (”una stupidaggine”).  Another participant exclaimed, “There’s been a change between generations in the use of their intelligence” (referring to present lawmakers)…”e una vergogna.” (it is an embarrassment).  At that point he walked over and stood over the panelist to whom he was speaking, and they continued arguing.  All the other participants were talking, and what they were saying was not discernable, as the moderator was shouting above the other voices trying to take the floor.  Angered, the panelist that had been standing walked off the stage, with the moderator apologizing, calling for order and asking him to return!<br><br>
       While examples of confrontation without violence are innumerable, their documentation is not meant to imply that brawls never happen.  To the contrary—they are most often seen in groups of young adults (especially at soccer matches).  The contradiction of pre-fight language became clear to me in an incident with my husband and a work colleague, who were standing in a fast-food line, when a young man walked up and took his place in line directly in front of them.  Before they could protest, he turned, glared without blinking and said in a menacing voice, “Qualcosa non va?” (literally translated, it means is something wrong).  Never spoken loudly, no gesturing, but low and threatening, these are the words that warn the receiver that one word of response, and there will be a fight.  One need not fear when Italians are noisy; it is when they become quiet that there is reason for concern!<br><br>
       A cross-comparison of these situations reveals a common and overt impulse on the part of participants to articulate their feelings regarding what is happening.  There appears to be a felt obligation to respond, and do so vigorously (even in the case of children on the playground).  The only exception occurred when there was truly a threat of violence.  This knee-jerk reaction can be seen as Italians’ character conditioned by “campanilismo”, a term originating when “Italy” was but a number of small independent states, made up of numerous small towns and villages.  Each proudly erected their own “campanile” (bell tower), and “campanilsmo” came to mean the love of one’s native town. It is with great pride that even today, an Italian will tell you the exact region from which he/she comes, rather than their country. This history of independence is the driving force behind the felt rights and obligations to express one’s individualism without fear of reprisal.   <br><br>   
     A second piece to the right of free speech is that of catharsis.  The energy used to express participants’ feelings serves as a release, removing the desire for further action.  The socially accepted limit to self-expression can be found in one’s ability to blow off steam (through raised voices, exaggerated gestures, swearing and insulting the momentary adversary) without the necessity of carrying it any further.  Hostilities are vented so effectively that all is forgotten shortly and people seldom exhibit the volcanic eruptions seen in other cultures.  In the heat of an argument all the participants are yelling and gesturing at the same time, no effort is being made to hear the others, no one apologizes, and no energy is put forth to reach compromise or solution.  This leaves all participants in a perceived winning position as no one takes responsibility, all reserve the right to express themselves, and no one must make changes or amends as a result of the confrontation.<br><br>
     Finally, returning to the issue of the “bella figura”, despite outward appearances, every participant felt a distinct concern for how they would be seen in the public eye (except the case of the children who hadn’t learned this yet).  While this may seem a paradox in some of the cases, in a confrontational situation (even if bad language is used or behavior is perceived as rude), the ultimate motive is seen in the drive to hold all the power, showing oneself to be right, and never back down—this is a “bella figura”!<br><br>
     Things are seldom as they seem.  This can certainly be said of the chaotic appearance of life in Italian culture. Perhaps this is why Mussolini once stated that it wasn’t impossible to govern Italians… just merely useless!  Yet surprisingly the fact that Italians decidedly devote an immense measure of energy (catharsis) to express themselves so vigorously, fear no retribution (”campanilismo”), and exit a confrontation feeling they have maintained a “bella figura” in the process, tells the outside world that there really is a semblance of order that underlies it all, and language simply serves to spell it out.  Ah, that’s why they exclaim, ” E la dolce vita!”(it’s the sweet life). 

 
 

A Time Capsule for Reed March 19, 2004

Filed under: Family News — Jaime @ 10:20 pm

Hello dear friends & family!  We can’t believe that it has already been almost a year since our little Reed came into our lives, but the time is near for his 1st birthday!

We would like to do a special thing for him on this very special day and want to have all of you invloved! This way you too can be a part of this special day! We are going to make a time capsule for him that he can open in the year 2020. And we need for YOU to help us fill it! How can you do this you ask? Great question, here are some suggestions:

Write a letter (doesn’t need to be long)
Send a favorite photo
Send a favorite keepsake
Provide words of wisdom for him in his late teen/adult years
Anything you like…something special for him to open when he is 17!

We would like to have all items before April 29th so that we can close the capsule for the next 17 years!

Can’t wait to receive these special words for our son to cherish later in life!

Love,

The Finseth’s

 
 

Followership - Original Article Now Posted on Wikipedia February 24, 2004

Filed under: Articles — Jaime @ 9:59 pm

Followership is a real concept, not one of President Bush’s made up words!

Followership at first glance seems to be the antithesis of leadership. Subjection, meekness, and subtlety are words that come to mind first when conceptualizing Followership. The role of a follower, however, is in many ways similar to that of the leader. The key ingredient of being a good follower is a willingness to tell the truth. Leaders must depend on their subordinates for good information. At times this information will not be welcome. The follower must have the confidence to speak out. They understand that the discomfort they may feel while communicating concisely with the leader is necessary, and that they are helping the leader make better decisions. Having the fortitude to speak candidly with the leader is also a leadership trait. Followers must realize that silence is an unacceptable answer…

Followership is guided by a set of principals, many of which are similar to leadership. They include: demonstrating respect, thinking win/win, working within the system, and being proactive and appreciating differences. An effective follower strives toward a common goal with the leader. They recognize the authority of the leader and tailor their actions to be in line with the leaders ideals. The follower makes their own decisions based on a set of values, and enthusiastically works towards organizational goals while holding themselves accountable for results. A good follower gains the trust of the leader and creates enough independence that allows them to achieve the goal without complete reliance on the leader. They require only high-level guidance, and are effective when working in a group independently. Followership includes recognizing the hierarchy of leadership while becoming a self-motivated mini leader, proactively working to fulfill or exceed expectations.

Effective followers ask questions like: How good are your following skills? Do you willingly step forward? Is your leader really glad you are on-board? Are you on-board? Do you participate with the leader and the rest of the team in a follower frame of mind or do you spend time criticizing your leader’s shortcomings? Are you willing to follow, to move from where you are?

Followership should be an important part of the Christian World View. Effective Christians should be effective followers because they espouse act as disciples of God. Followership has become subtler in the Christian culture even though the Bible emphasizes following much more than leading. Man’s sinful nature and interest in self-preservation, and self-promotion has skewed the average Christian perspective to value leadership more strongly. Christians are directed to follow the teachings of Jesus and the Bible. Espousing to followership should be second nature, however, many do not see that this is an important aspect of Christian behavior. It is our duty to follow/lead by example.

Becoming an effective follower takes just as much work as becoming a leader. Leaders must recognize the difference between pessimists, individuals just along for the ride, individuals working just for the paycheck, and participants (followers). Followership must be rewarded. Organizations that clearly communicate guidelines for subordinates will be more successful. Effective followership expectations must be taught. Anyone can use followership to become more effective.

Note: From time to time we will post some of our personal writing if it is deemed adeqate!
This short essay was written for Communications class MBA608 at Belhaven.

 
 

Reed’s Rotavirus February 9, 2004

Filed under: Family News — Jaime @ 9:53 pm

Reed is at home and feeling much better! For those of you who don’t know, we had to take him in to the hospital because he was getting dehydrated. The Doctor thinks he had ROTO Virus.

We went in on Friday afternoon, and they hooked him up to an I.V. He was pale and his skin had a yellowish tint. He lost about 1.5lbs during the week. We thought he was on the mend on Thursday, but that night he woke up with really bad stomach cramps. Jaime took him to see the Doc on Friday afternoon, and they decided to admit him.

He did really well at the Hospital. It was really sad to see him comeback after getting his I.V. He looked at us and started crying ;(

Read more about the Roto Virus below, Click here to see Reed at the hospital >>

WHAT IS ROTAVIRAL GASTROENTERITIS?

Rotaviral Gastroenteritis is an infection of the intestinal tract caused by Rotavirus. This disease is the one of the most common causes of diarrhea in children, and is an important cause of acute intestinal infection in children attending child care.

WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS?

Within 1 to 3 days of exposure to Rotavirus, vomiting occurs followed by an episode of watery diarrhea. The period of vomiting usually lasts for about 3 days, and the diarrheal phase can last anywhere from 3 to 8 days. These symptoms are frequently accompanied by fever and abdominal pain. Without adequate fluid replacement, severe body fluid loss will occur, which may result in death.

WHERE DOES IT COME FROM AND HOW IS IT TRANSMITTED?

Most human infections involving Rotavirus result from contact with other infected humans. Rotavirus in animals occur in many species, but transmission from animals to humans has not been documented.

Rotavirus may also be found in sewage contaminated waters. Foods harvested from these waters, or irrigated with these waters, and eaten raw may result in Rotaviral Gastroenteritis in both adults and children. The number of virus particles necessary to cause infection is low, and the disease is easily spread by person-to-person contact through hand-to-mouth transfer of the Rotavirus from the feces of an infected individual. Objects such as toys or food may easily become contaminated by an infected person if hands are not washed after using the toilet.

CAN THE DISEASE BE TREATED?

Rotaviral Gastroenteritis cannot be treated. Cases involving severe diarrhea require that body fluids and electrolytes be replaced to prevent dehydration. Infection generally gives a person long term immunity to the disease.

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO PREVENT ROTAVIRAL GASTROENTERITIS?

Hands should be thoroughly washed with plenty of soap and hot water after using the toilet, or changing children’s diapers, and always before handling or eating food. Children especially must be encouraged to wash their hands and clean under their fingernails. Ensure that all foods consumed raw are thoroughly washed first. Meats and poultry should be cooked thoroughly to an internal temperature of at least 75º Celsius (165ºF). Travellers to areas with inadequate sanitary facilities should only eat cooked foods, served hot. Avoid the consumption of ice, salads, and raw vegetables when traveling in these areas. Eat only raw fruits that have been thoroughly washed and can be peeled.

ARE THERE ANY OTHER CONCERNS?

Since the Rotavirus is passed in the feces, only people with active diarrhea who are unable to control their bowel habits (for example: infants, young children, certain handicapped individuals, etc.) should be isolated. Most infected people may return to work or school when their stools become formed provided that they carefully wash their hands after toilet visits. Food handlers, children in day care centres, and health care workers must obtain the approval of the local Health Authority before returning to their routine activities.

 
 

Travis Finseth Autobiography November 24, 2003

Filed under: Articles — Jaime @ 9:49 pm

Written as a requirement for some extra credits in my undergrad… 

This is the life history of Travis Finseth. I get to talk about myself the whole time and you can’t do anything… except stop reading! My life has been quite a ride, so strap in for a read. I hope that I manage to write this well enough that people will actually read the whole story. I was born in Denver, Co April 25th, 1976, so that means I am 26 as I write this. I have o­ne sibling, Malia, born in December 1980. My parents are still happily married, a rarity these days, and are celebrating their 30th anniversary this year. My father, Terry, owned two auto parts stores in the Denver area. My mother, Michele, was a homemaker and part time business manager for D.I.Y (Do It Yourself Auto Parts). We lived a privileged life in the heart of the American middle class. We attended our Lutheran church (Christ the Savior) faithfully, although I didn’t enjoy it too much. I was trouble by the minute, always causing strife, and frustrating my parents to no end. They tried all kinds of discipline, counseling, and other forms of behavior management; to no avail. They kept the faith and somehow I actually turned out all right (by most accounts!). I attended Dalton elementary school, and I bet that all of my teachers remember me well, but not fondly!

We made the family decision that it was time for a change of lifestyle.

We lived in Denver until I was 12. At that point my parents came to Malia (6) and I with a life changing opportunity. My parents had considered mission work before we were born, but had not felt called specifically until then. They asked us what we thought about moving overseas to work with Habitat for Humanity. I couldn’t believe that my dad was willing to give up the Porsche for a TRAG (a 3 wheeled vehicle with a bed o­n the back like a truck). We made the family decision that it was time for a change of lifestyle. At this point we sold everything we had, except for a few of the most important things; the Porsche was dropped off at Grandpa’s house in California. We went to Americus Georgia, headquarters of Habitat, for International Partner training. We spent three months cross cultural training, learning the theology of a hammer, and adjusting to some minor culture shock. Americus was a good experience for me. I was enrolled in a local school, and actually excelled in my classes. I worked with my parents some afternoons, building houses. o­ne time I assisted Jimmy Carter (who is a long time Habitat spokesperson) build a doorframe. Meanwhile we traveled to Atlanta every other week to get vaccinations, no fun what so ever. We also started our bi-weekly chloroquin treatments for malaria.

Our first mission was to the Solomon Islands. We were to help start a Habitat project o­n the 25mi wide island of Santa Cruz. The Solomons are a chain that comes off of Papua New Guinea eastward, just north of Australia (get your world map out). At Habitat we were able to see a couple of pictures that had been sent back. It was quite a change from chilly Denver, to o­nly 12 degrees from the equator. I remember the humidity and heat that hit us like a wall as we got off of the plane in Honiara. Honiara is the capital of the Solomons, just a three-hour flight away from Santa Cruz, via a bi-weekly flight o­n a twin-otter that seated about eighteen. Sometimes they would send out the 5-seat beachcraft instead. We took a trip over to a village in Malaita for language training in Pidgin English. The Solomons consist of 3000+ islands, with twice as many languages and dialects. The first explorers/missionaries established Pidgin as the best form of communication. o­ne of villagers in Malaita gave us our first parrot (Namu). We then spent a couple more weeks in Honiara, buying six months worth of supplies, kerosene, and mosquito nets. We dropped all the stuff o­n a boat and then flew in to the island that was to be our home for the next four years.

Santa Cruz (Nendo) is a very beautiful island in the absolute middle of nowhere. The reef and water are spectacular. The villagers are nice, but simple, living in sago palm leaf houses. Most are sustenance farmers who sometimes take extra food to the market. Lata is the big village (+-50 houses with a couple shops, vehicle repair shop, post office and soccer, basketball and netball courts). There is a radio station sometimes, and houses have electricity most of the time. My mothers favorite saying, “we moved from LATA(America- Land of Total Availability) to Lata Santa Cruz, the opposite”. Down from Lata is a very beautiful bay with villages scattered along the edge. We lived our first six months in a village about half way down along the bay, in a bible translators house. We lived without electricity. The house had nice wooden floors and leaf walls, and roof. It even had the luxury of an indoor toilet and shower. Our landlord, Thomas and I became good friends, although he was thirty some years older than I. He taught me all the basics of island living: How to wield a machete, from carving to coconuts; How to build my first bow and arrow set, spear and gillovati, and the basics of spear fishing. I started with a small strip of rubber an umbrella wire, notched at o­ne end and sharpened at the other, spearing itty-bitty fish. He also showed me how to build a slingshot from the right shaped tree branch to cutting a bicycle tube in strips for the elastic sling. We fished a lot, hunted flying fox, and he ate, I couldn’t get past the smell! He also taught me how to chew betel nut (mild narcotic). He was my best good friend.

Santa Cruz (Nendo) is a very beautiful island in the absolute middle of nowhere. The reef and water are spectacular. The villagers are nice, but simple, living in sago palm leaf houses.

Our family unit grew closer and closer together as time passed. Malia and I were home schooled for the next 4 years. Malia did very well, doing two years worth of work in o­ne. I did well also, but did not spend the extra time studying. We would get up early with the sun, and be done with schoolwork by noon. I would spend the rest of the day spear fishing or just snorkeling looking for shells. I often played soccer o­n the beach with the village kids. Dad and I would go play basketball in Lata at least twice a week. The family also spent every Wednesday working o­n Habitat houses. We eventually built a stilt house about ten feet from the water, up o­n the point of the bay, in a village called Luova. There is a stunning beach that runs all the way around the edge of the village and miles down the edge of the island. We could get in the water right in front of the house and the current would carry us out and around the point. It is some of the best diving in the world. I have seen or speared an amazing array of fish including giant grouper, manta ray, stingray, hammerhead, tiger, blacktip reef shark and huge lobster. I started a small shell collection. The pastor of the Anglican Church in Luova was from Tikopea (Polynesian Island further out than Santa Cruz). He worked with dad and Habitat. o­n returning from a trip to his home, brought me a baby frigate bird. We named him big bird because of his white downy baby feathers (resembling Sesame Street). Being a seafaring bird, he needed fresh fish everyday to eat. I raised him until he could catch his own fish. As an adult he had a six-foot plus wingspan. He would glide out and land o­n my head while I was spear fishing, or land o­n the boat to steal some fish. Big Bird was the most graceful and beautiful pet I’ve had. He eventually grew up and flew off into the sunset.

We left the Solomons for a vacation in 1989. Our three-month trip was an education to say the least. We visited Papua New Guinea, Singapore, Thailand, India, Nepal, Hong Kong, Macau, and the Philippines. I remember each country vividly. Their cultures are so strong. I also remember ravaging a McDonald’s Big Mac in the Singapore airport immediately after landing. I didn’t realize how much I missed the American fast food restaurants. We experienced a healthy dose of reverse culture shock. Whenever I encountered a language barrier with English (which was often), I automatically switched into Pidgin. It was hard to break that habit. Every city was so enormous and built up.

We left o­n Dad’s birthday, and flew from Honiara to Papua New Guinea, and then o­n to Singapore. Singapore is an amazingly clean city. A lot of the land that the city is built o­n has been reclaimed. The government rules with an iron fist. They impose thousands of dollar fines for spitting, chewing gum, jaywalking, or smoking o­n the elevator. You can’t buy a pack of gum anywhere in the whole city! It is a very unique city with tons of shopping and great food. Thailand’s night market was really cool, offering everything from remote control cars to basketball shoes (the important things for someone at that age!). While in Bangkok we rented motorcycles and went up into the mountains to see an incredible Buddhist temple. Traffic in Thailand is incredibly crazy. It’s similar to walking o­n a sidewalk. People, cars, tuk-tuk’s, semi’s and motorcycles cruise down the road in whatever place presents the quickest route. It doesn’t matter if that route happens to be o­n the sidewalk across o­ncoming traffic. Dad and Malia rode o­n o­ne, and Mom and I rode o­n another. As we pulled up to the first intersection, mom tried to stop the bike with her feet! Luckily we avoided an accident. Dad decided it would be better if I drove and she navigated. It worked pretty well. Of course I was o­nly 14 at the time.

India was o­ne of the most unbelievable places I can remember. It is a country of extremes. It is the dirtiest, humid, dusty, sticky, parching country o­n earth. There is almost no middle class. You are either very rich or very poor. Pressure “sales children” are taught how to make the deal almost as soon as they are able to walk. You will have a trail of people following you constantly trying to sell, beg or steal every cent out of your wallet. It takes a lot out of you trying to deal with the throng everywhere you go every day. Even when it is time to rest, you can’t because there is a good chance someone will be going thru your bags while you sleep. With millions of people and very little sanitation, it is not uncommon to see someone take an immediate left and pee o­n a wall. Don’t even think about drinking the water. In the cities like Delhi there are squatters living in every possible place. The garbage dump is o­ne of the best spots because of a guaranteed source of income, and food. o­n the other hand you see some of the best architecture in the world. The Taj-Mahal was absolutely amazing. Filled with ornate carvings inlaid with semi-precious stones that disperse light throughout. This is after the British Army came in and took the current crown jewels from the latticework surrounding the inner sanctum. Another amazing artistic structure was the Bahai Lotus Temple. There are hundreds of amazing temples scattered all over the place. We also visited the northern Indian towns of Shrinagar, and Gulmarg.

The Taj-Mahal was absolutely amazing. Filled with ornate carvings inlaid with semi-precious stones that disperse light throughout.

After seven searches at the airport, we flew to Nepal. Nepal seemed to be a lot safer and cleaner, however, the rest of the family immediately got sick from the water. We continued o­n, and saw some of the most spectacular mountains o­n earth. The Himalayas rise up into the clouds, and then poke their peaks out above the highest cloud. A guide pointed out K-2 and Everest, but they are not individually spectacular, as you would expect, because the rest of the range around them is nearly as high. From Nepal we flew down to the Philippines. There we met a bunch of other Habitat for Humanity “partners” (missionaries) for a weeklong retreat. It was good to meet many of the other people working in the Asia-Pacific area. The Philippines are beautiful islands with beautiful people. I really enjoyed the visit and the relaxation. We flew back to the Solomons via Papua New Guinea.

Life continued peacefully o­n Santa Cruz until the end of our term. We helped build more than fifteen houses. During our term we visited many of the other provinces in the Solomons. My parents helped start a few other Habitat projects. o­n our visits we would always go through Honiara, and I would always bring a load of seashells that I collected to sell at a local tourist seashell shop. I grew my shell collection to more than 1500 shells of all sizes. I also spent time combing through shells at the market, looking for gems. My dad and I started playing basketball with a group in Honiara in the middle of China Town.

After our first three-year term was up we went back to the U.S. for a sabbatical. It was great to see family and friends again. We flew across the U.S. and back visiting Georgia, Washington D.C., California, Colorado, Washington, Idaho, and Disney World in Florida. o­n our return journey to Santa Cruz, we stopped in Australia as tourists, and then Fiji because interest in Habitat had been expressed. I really liked Suva a lot because the city was much larger and there was a good group that played basketball. It was also much more modern than Honiara. Suva had the perfect balance between first world and developing countries. Fiji is a real melting pot of culture. University of the South Pacific is located in Suva, and is the o­nly College in the South Pacific. Fiji’s population is almost half East Indian. Indians were brought in as indentured servants to work the sugar cane fields. Sugar is Fiji’s second largest source of income (tourism being first). So Suva is a bunch of different cultures mixed together. The rest of Fiji also has a strong cultural identity. Fiji has had a lot of problems as of late because of the different cultural issues. There have been multiple coups and government regime changes. The indigenous Fijians are fighting to keep their land, while the Indians just want to have their fair share. Luckily during the times that we were in Fiji, all was peaceful.

Because of it central location and opportunities for growth within the country, Fiji was chosen to be the central location for this office.

We did make it back to the Solomons and lived in Honiara for a few months. Habitat asked mom and dad to become regional project developers. Because of it central location and opportunities for growth within the country, Fiji was chosen to be the central location for this office. We moved to Suva in 1991. I started public school again at Suva Grammar. I also played as much basketball as possible. Through sports and school, I joined a great group of friends that was dubbed “the gang”. We all played basketball and participated in various other sports. Dad and Malia played a lot also. I played o­n the Veterans team with dad and other Americans and transplants. We had a great time and even won a few of the leagues. We took our Veterans/Rookies and White-Fire (women’s) club teams to Tahiti for a tournament. o­nce we were eligible to play (two years residency), dad and I both were invited to play for the Fiji National team. We took a couple trips around the pacific. I went with the Fiji Under-21 National team to Darwin Australia. We also played in the inaugural Fiji games. My team won a Gold Medal! We still spent a lot of time out in the ocean. Dad and I were certified SCUBA divers. We filled an awesome fish tank with incredible coral and fish directly from the ocean. Tubeworms, brain coral, live shells, clown fish, mantis shrimp and even a baby octopus occupied our tank. My shell collection grew to more than 3000 shells. Malia and I both did well in school. Our group of friends grew very close and I can distinctly remember the happiness that we shared. Tiri, Warren, Earl, Sione, Ravi, Robert, Tifere, Teri, Claire, Todd, Helen, Sheena and others are still great friends and I miss them dearly. I have made it a goal to live in Fiji again. I switched to the International school the second year. The school year runs the opposite time of year, as do the seasons in the southern hemisphere. By this time I was a junior in high school. In August of 1994 I was half way through the school year. My grades were fine, but I was struggling with the amount of study time required by the International baccalaureate program. Four hours a night was too much, and cut into my basketball agenda! I had been trying to talk my parents into letting me return to the states to play high school basketball for a couple of years before going to play in college. They finally agreed when a friend of the family wrote and mentioned that they would be interested in hosting me if I returned. I moved back to Denver for the start of the school year in August 1994. I played average basketball through my career at Denver Lutheran. I had a 3.5gpa. Looking back I realize that I experienced quite a bit of culture shock in Colorado.

The best part of my return to Colorado was that I met my wife Jaime at Denver Lutheran High School. We started dating about two months after I returned to the states. We have been together ever since, just like peas and carrots. After high school I was not sure what I wanted to do. College was a first priority, but I didn’t believe in going into debt to pay for it. I had a couple of different offers to go play basketball, but none for athletic scholarships. I was disappointed with the results of my high school career and was disillusioned with the politics involved. It had become more of a job than a game that I enjoyed. While I was in the process of making a decision that summer I took a job with an old friend at a daycare for kids. I met Mark Jencks through his wife Alina, who also worked at the daycare. Mark worked for ICG a small telecom company in Colorado. He offered a position as a telecom technician. I decided to try this job for a year because it earned as much or more money than most college grads would expect. I started a 3-month contract at ICG in August of 1995. I was actually working at ICG for a contracting company called Aerotek. My time at ICG was not entirely successful. I had trouble grasping the new telecom concepts along with technical deduction. It did give me enough experience to secure another telecom job. While I waited for Aerotek to come through with another contract I worked at Gart Sports. Finally, after a couple of months I was offered a position in Jackson Mississippi with LDDS WorldCom.

Jaime and I moved down to Mississippi in the spring of 1996. I had spent some time in Georgia with my parents at Habitat for Humanity training, so I knew what to expect. I started work at WorldCom and excelled. Jaime had never been to the south and didn’t know what life would be like. It took her a while to get used to the lifestyle, but she has adjusted pretty well. She worked as a travel agent, and then was also hired o­n at WorldCom. We are both very comfortable in Mississippi and enjoy the benefits of raising children in the south. We both still have a desire to move overseas at some point whether for mission or business work.While Jaime was a travel agent we did quite a bit of traveling as you can imagine. We visited Denver a few times, and also traveled Europe: Germany, Italy, France and Holland. We also visited the Caribbean and Bahamas. We visited my parents in Rome. They left Fiji in 1998 and moved to Sudan with the Presbyterian Church. After spending roughly a year in Sudan, it became too dangerous. They then moved to Rome, Italy, and have been there for past six years. We were interested in moving overseas, and went for an interview in Hong Kong, China. When negotiations fell through, we settled down fairly comfortably in Mississippi but realized that education was still a priority, so we both enrolled at Belhaven.

Fatherhood has been a fun and rewarding experience. I look forward to each moment that we spend together.

I’m not sure what exactly peaked my interest, but during the summer of 2000 I started taking o­nline tutorials o­n building WebPages. I learned how to build basic pages, register my own domain name and FTP files to a remote server. I had a couple of friends in the WorldCom Intranet I.T. department. They gave me the necessary programs to develop complicated websites and graphics. My first website was www.dmocean.com. Although version 2 is up at this time, it is still easy to see that my knowledge of web architecture was in its infancy. I used the site for pictures, art and experimentation. My real interest has always been in graphic design. I constantly doodle while at work, and have always thought of myself as an artist. I also started learning how to use Photoshop, which is my primary graphic design program. WorldCom’s demise had begun and I was not sure if I would be laid off next. I developed a business plan to build websites for individuals and companies. The Internet is an enigma for individuals and small businesses. It allows companies to operate with little overhead, and is extremely profitable because of the expertise needed to build and run an Internet business. It is also a self-disseminating tool that can be used to learn everything that makes the Internet itself work. I built a new website to run my business from: www.nuzu.net. I named my company Nuzu Net Media. It has been successful, although it’s not quite a full time occupation at this time.

Recently we were surprised with the conception of our son Reed. Reed was born o­n April 29, 2003. We have been truly blessed. He is a very calm and happy baby. I pray that he is nothing like me when I was little! Fatherhood has been a fun and rewarding experience. I look forward to each moment that we spend together. I have learned that having patience is a virtue. I am fascinated by his constant development. He seems to be completely different from day to day. My experiences have taught me to trust the higher authority. He has blessed me with a great foundation and history. I have not struggled and have been rewarded with a loving and close immediate family and a wonderful wife. We know that God has a plan for our lives, and we trust Him. He led us to Lakeland Presbyterian Church where we have been surrounded by great friends and a loving Christian environment. Our future holds many exciting things. We are still considering moving overseas o­n a mission, and have been in contact with a couple of different mission organizations. Our original plans had been to go after graduation from Belhaven, however with the blessing of our son we have postponed the move. I am sure that God will send us o­n our way when He sees fit.

 
 

Readers November 20, 2003

Filed under: Comedy — Jaime @ 10:10 pm

A couple goes on a vacation to a fishing resort in Northern Minnesota. The husband likes to fish at the crack of dawn. The wife likes to read. <more…>

One morning the husband returns after several hours of fishing and decides to take a nap. Although not familiar with the lake, the wife decides to take the boat out. She motors out a short distance, anchors and continues
to read her book.

Along comes a game warden in his boat. He pulls up alongside the woman and says, “Good morning Ma’am.
What are you doing?”

“Reading a book,” she replies, (thinking “isn’t that obvious?”).

“You’re in a restricted fishing area,” he informs her.

“I’m sorry officer, but I’m not fishing. I’m reading.”

“Yes, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment. I’ll have to take you in and write you up.”

“If you do that, I’ll have to charge you with sexual assault,”
says the woman.

“But I haven’t even touched you,” says the game warden.

“That’s true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know
you could start at any moment.”

“Have a nice day Ma’am,” and he left…

MORAL

Never argue with a woman who reads. It’s likely she can
think also.

 
 

Bruno’s November Update from Romania November 11, 2003

Filed under: Family News — Jaime @ 10:01 pm

Transmitted across thousands of miles on the frail backs of weary electrons
right to the comfort of your cluttered desktop, here is your latest news about
the Bruno (and a Graham) family, brought to you courtesy of your favorite and
only on-site reporter, Dominic Bruno!
Really, if you want to hear about Romania from someone else’s perspective,
your going to have to put some pressure on them. If you’re ok with the
current system, then you’ll have to tolerate my tardiness with updates
(especially regarding the website). <more…>

What treasures will be revealed in this grand showcase of journalistic
persistence (if not prowess)? Cinnamon rolls, stagnant pits of sewage, and
the wonders of Budapest,Vienna and Cluj-Napoca await if you should choose to
read further. If these flavors sound somewhat bland, the “delete” button is
right over there.

Jeff, Dad, and I continue to work weekly at Noah’s Ark, the Good Samaritan
(G.S.) operated home for orphans with developmental disabilities. Outside the
back door of this home, a small, uncovered pit held drain water from the
upstairs rooms. Our first project was to put in an enclosed drainage system
through which this nasty stuff would run through pipes out into the street
(just like all the other houses). Since then, we have constructed 3 sets of
sturdy storage shelves in outside sheds. Thursday, if the snow holds off, we
hope to pour a small concrete canal to also help with the drain system. The
GS social worker holds life skills classes at the Ark once a week. Mom and
Jana have been attending these classes, adding weight to the social worker’s
presentation through their presence, and developing friendships with the young
women.

In the middle of October, Dad and I spent two days working with a team of
Romanian engineers on a Habitat for Humanity project. These engineers came
from various departments of LaFarge, one of the largest construction supply
companies in Europe. Dad and I worked on installing insulation and sheetrock
in a 4 apartment house complex that Habitat is building. Having a Romanian
team of volunteers, as this was, is rare. In Romania’s Communist era, the
people were required to do mandatory volunteering on their days off from
work. Because of this, volunteering now has unpleasant connotations for
Romanians.

Toward the end of October, the traveling and R&R bug overtook Mom and I. We
snagged a ride to Budapest, Hungary, about a 6 hour drive north-west. Our
plans were decided at the last minute, so we hadn’t arranged a place to stay.
After finding no vacancies at two hostels, we ran into an amazingly friendly
Czech couple who helped us find lodging. That night we had dinner and walked
around the Parliament district of Budapest with the Czech’ers. In the
Parliament area, there were huge displays in remembrance of the Hungarian
people’s unsuccessful revolt against Communist rule in 1956. I had never
heard of this event; seeing the displays and monuments, as well as our
discussion with our Czech friends who had lived under Communist rule, I found
the evening to be very intriguing. It highlighted the distance between the
free American life and the restrictions and deprivation of life under
Communist control. Budapest was a pretty city, split into Buda and Pest by
the Danube River. Mom and I have a similar travel style of eating often and
enjoying just walking about, so I had a great time, seeing old castles,
churches, monuments, and the like. A specific highlight: we found a little
cake and pastry place near our apartment that served delicious goodies; as a
bonus, after 1800 until closing, everything was half price!! Probably not
surprising to anyone who knows Mom and I well, in the span of four days, we
became regular customers.

After four days, Mom left for home, while I continued on to Vienna, Austria,
to finish out the week. In Vienna I met up with a good Gonzaga friend
Michelle Manson, as well as her friends Claire and Becky, who are studying in
Paris this semester. While the temperature was a bit cold, the good times
continued in Vienna. We visited an art museum, sat in the wrong seats at a
relaxing Mozart concert, ate apple strudel, listened to musicians on the
street, and took an extensive walk around the park and adjoining estate of the
Schonnbrun palace. It was a good break to talk about the glory days of
previous school years and kick back with friends.

Clark had last week off from school, so the whole family decided to journey to
Cluj-Napoca, a large college city in Romania. Our friend Nini, the older son
of the family we live with, goes to school in Cluj, and he showed us around
the city. Adrian, Nini’s younger brother, went with us on the trip and helped
out bunches by acting as our spokesman. Cluj, with a population of over
300,000, is one of the largest cities in Romania and is bustling with people-
many students. The university that Nini attends has its faculties/colleges
spread out across the city; there is no central campus. Nini explained that
this fragmentation was the work of the Communist Romanian dictator, Ceausescu,
who was looking to minimize the rallying of students, possible threats to his
power. While in Cluj, most of us attended a professional basketball game of
the top Romanian league. I found the level of ball comparable to a low
college level; they weren’t Gonzaga, but it was quite fun. Sitting in an
arena watching basketball I almost forgot what country I was in as I yelled
out and cheered in English without concern of standing out.

Work with GS continues to be challenging. After three months, many of the
obstacles that GS faces in trying to integrate orphans into society are
becoming quite clear. The most aggravating of these blocks are those set in
the Romanian culture. Basically, employers don’t hire orphans. Some
employers have been disappointed by the work of orphans in the past, and this
feeling continues to cycle. Furthermore, employers don’t hire gypsies, who
face strong discrimination in Romania. (Romania contains the most gypsies
(Roma) of any country.) Many of the orphans are born of gypsy parents, but
growing up in the orphanage they don’t have a gypsy upbringing. This fact
doesn’t matter to the majority of the employers. A number of the orphans that
our family works with have the skills to move out of GS into the workforce,
yet are kept from doing so by lack of employment opportunities due to these
cultural barriers.

We all have begun to spend more time in the office, working on policy and
ideas to shape and guide GS. Dad, with his management experience, has become
a very valuable resource to the staff. Mom and Jana are preparing to take on
the role of restaurant trainers with actual authority. Jeff and Jana, with
their artistic talents, are working on various marketing and promotional
materials for GS. Jeff, drawing on his foreman experience, is working on how
to effectively handle the GS employee orphans. Besides taking vacations and
writing updates, I offer technical support to both staff and family for
various projects, still work at the carpentry shop a couple days a week,
brainstorm and plan with the rest, and take fewer naps than I would like. So,
if you’ve been ticking items off your list, you’ll notice that I’ve yet to
explain one item: cinnamon rolls. Items like this and chocolate cake have
been the work of Mom, providing yummy remedies for the cold-weather blues and
GS frustrations.

Once again, if you have any questions or requests or specific information that
you want to know about that I haven’t covered, please ask. Also, I appreciate
any and all the encouragement, support, prayers, and news that you send our
way. Thank you!
Also, feel free to forward this on to anyone you know who is interested, but
isn’t on the update list.

Peace to you,
dominic

website address: http://barney.gonzaga.edu/~dbruno
I haven’t updated the site in over a month, but a major renovation that will
improve navigation and update content is scheduled take place later this
week.

Note: Frank, Sheila, Jana, Jeff, Dominic, Clark and Aurelia are on a one year mission to Romania.
They need our prayers and support. Links to Dominics website: